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Anger In Your Relationship Can Hurt More Than You Know
Having low-esteem in your
relationship can result in not
having the confidence to
carry on with it.
Get a confidence boost right here.
When you are confident about
yourself, you are confident
about everything else.
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We get angry if we think that
we are not being treated fairly.
We get angry when things
don't go the way we planned
it.
The thing is we all experience
anger.
Managed properly, anger
can be a positive thing.
It can be a red flag that
something’s wrong, a
catalyst for change,
or a good self-motivator.
On the flip side, like poorly
managed stress, anger
that isn’t handled properly
can be not only uncomfortable,
but even damaging to one’s
health and personal life.
A raging sort of anger will
do a number on your heart.
As it turns out, anger can
contribute to heart disease.
It might produce a direct
physiological effect on
your heart and arteries
by activating your body's
fight or flight response
system.
When that happens your
blood pressure can rise
constricting your blood
vessels, your heart rate
and breathing will speed
up.
Basically, you're getting
your body prepped up for
an emergency every time
you get very angry.
Thus, when you get angry
often, you'll cause serious
wear and tear on your heart
and cardiovascular muscles.
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In any relationship we get
angry with one another
often because of
unresolved issues.
Anger can surely kill your
relationship with your partner
if it's not dealt with quickly
and effectively.
The first thing you need to
remember about dealing
with anger in life, whether
your in a relationship or
not, is that it is okay to
be angry.
Like I said above, anger can
be a good thing.
The problem here isn't about
being angry, it's when you
or your partner refuse to let
go of that anger.
Understand what it is you're
really angry about.
Dealing with anger is much
easier if you know what
makes you angry.
Sit down and talk with your
partner or with the person
you are angry about and
discuss why you are angry
with them or why they are
angry with you.
Make sure the lines of
communication are open
and neutral.
Let them know that they
can safely communicate
their feelings, needs or
fears to one another.
If you start feeling resentful
or angry over something
your partner is doing - or
has done - then take the
necessary steps to tell them
without placing blame or
attacking them.
Be willing to compromise.
If your anger is because of
what your partner does or
your partner is angry with
you because of what you
did then find a middle ground
that you both can live with.
If you think that you know
someone who goes overboard
too much or you feel that you
let yourself rage all too often,
then see if you should get
some help.
Anger management is
helpful and can give you
the support you need to
get back to a normal life.
Anger can also be a defensive
mechanism for those who
lack the confidence within
themselves to face the world.
See how you can fight that here.
Let your anger go so it doesn't
control you. And when you
have the confidence to do
that you won't have to face
that dilemma often.
To your inner health,
Rose Windale
P.S. My blog can be found at: http://www.healthzine.org. Come check it out.
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